It's been awhile

It's been a while and things have been a little crazy in our neck of the woods. The current item: officer involved shootings. It is a sad thing on either end and what I mean by that is that it is sad for the officer and for the victim when things like this take place. It is hard for people to grasp the situation and what might have caused it or how it started or why it ended the way it did. Sometimes the answers don't come quickly enough or they are not what people want as justice. There is also lots of blame. Blame the officer. Blame the victim. When it should be lets look at the situation. You can say you don't know until it happens to you. Of course not. But what good does it do to blame others? It doesn't make the sadness go away or the fact that something bad happened. What I can tell you is that being on the law enforcement side of things I know it doesn't do any good for people to make threats to an officers family or the officer himself for that matter. When people say they are going to seek revenge of an officer then that affects not only the officer but his family. Let me also say that if you put the threat out there it just make you look bad and uneducated. An officer never goes looking for people to shoot. But if there is cause then they have to do what they have to do. They have to live with that decision for the rest of their lives and I have no doubt that it is a nightmare to wake up everyday knowing what they did. They do this job with terrible pay. They put themselves in the line of fire for strangers if the need arises. But they also have a right to defend themselves. I will also say that there have been a number of times I would like to say things that are not so pleasant but I don't. Why? Because I am better than that. I am not judge or jury. I am a woman/person who stands beside their loved one who just so happens to be a law enforcement officer. I stand with them men/women/children who are also part of this big family of blue. I pray for peace for all.

Staying safe

Saw an article today about another officer dying due to a car wreck. This makes me sad. My husband always tells me that you still have to drive safe when responding to an emergency so as not to cause another emergency on the way. If an officer responds to an emergency it would not do him or anyone else any good if he doesn't arrive due to reckless driving. If I was ever in an accident I would not want the officer to be in such a hurry that he would not make it there at all(whether or not I am injured) because I want him to arrive safely to help. Please drive safe.

Just a little something.

I know I have had this blog since 2010 and have not written much but you know how it goes. Life happens. Kids grow up, you make decisions to do something more with your life, you spend time doing what you really love at the time. I have been busy with a high school senior this year who just recently graduated and my time was consumed with trying to be prepared for that. Well it was super stressful and crazy but I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm a very proud mother. Maybe now I can find a little time to start blogging again. I recently posted on my facebook page: "There needs to be a day where all law enforcement goes on strike for 24 hours then we can see how people handle their own problems. Maybe then law enforcement will be appreciated." I had 12 likes and 2 comments. One of the comments was "Well now, let me see....then it will be law enforcements fault for not being on duty. Some things will never change no matter what." That is true. At least it would be an opportunity for people to see what would happen. People are always going to blame other people for their life situations that is also never going to change. But I for one choose not to blame other people for what is going on in my life. I know that if there is something in my life that I do not like only I can change it. NO ONE can do it for me. Plain and simple. I love my husband and am proud he chose law enforcement as a career. The good, the bad and the ugly of it all!

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Great Article that I wanted to share from another spouse.

To Understand

I want people to know and have an understanding what it is like to be the wife a a law enforcement officer because sometimes when we enter into friendships we tend to forget to explain how we feel about certain things. I know all to often people want to know whats going on when there is an accident or officers at a house, but the truth is, I don't want to know what is going on at that moment. If I think about my husband being out there and the things he could be up against then I would constantly worry and be a wreck. I would be no good to my children because I could not focus on their needs if I was worrying about their dad. Sometimes I simply can not say anything because I am trusted with information that he confides in me. That is my job as his spouse and best friend. He has to have someone that he can trust and confide in. If I think you should know then I will tell you but I would like that to be at my discression.
If my husband is on duty that also doesn't mean I know everything that is going on. He is busy doing his job and I am busy doing mine. Trust me, if it was somebody we knew on a personal level he would make sure to get the information to you as soon as possible. But he still has to do his job. The people of the public are his number one priority when he is on duty and sometimes when he is not. If my child was in an accident of course I would want to know but there would be nothing I could do at the scene, I trust that most law enforcement know what they are doing and that my child or family member will be in good hands until I can be with them. I am proud of what my husband does and will support him for as long as I have to. I just want people to know what it is like being in this type life where our spouses put their lives on the line.
Until next time. Stay safe.